How to Adult: Making Sundays Count

There are a few things I need to do Sundays or the rest of my week is a hot mess.

Sundays in the Ruesink household are one of two things: very busy or very lazy. There is no in between. Lately, we’ve been more busy than lazy, though, and I’m finding myself struggling to get through the week productively while still getting to spend precious time with my sweet husband. Once we get into the swing of the work week, if I don’t have my life figured out already, it’s very difficult for me to improvise in the little things like what to cook, wear, or clean after a long day at work.

Funny story – I’ve always been the weirdo who sets out her clothes in advance. My college roommate used to make fun of me because every Sunday night I would pull out my clothes not just for the next day but for the entire week.

To this day, this is still part of my Sunday routine that I have to do to be able to function. You may not be as weird as I am, but I can’t tell you how much it helps me to have a plan – even if it’s just a plan of what to wear this week.

That being said, I thought I’d share some of my Sunday even routines that I just can’t live without. Seriously, you might think they’re small and silly, but I can’t tell you how much less stress I have on weeks when I commit to getting these things done before Monday morning hits.

#1. Meal Prepping

Now, I don’t actually cook and prep meals for the entire week like the crazy (awesome) Pinterest moms do. I tried that once and spent the entire day in the kitchen and it just wasn’t realistic for my life. However, I do make sure that I have at least two large recipes picked out and all of the necessary ingredients in stock. If I already have lunches made (which sometimes happens when I make larger recipes), I make sure to throw a meal in my lunchbox and stick it in the fridge. Along the same lines, I fill a few mason jars with the ingredients for my morning smoothies so I can just dump, blend, and go, healthy, delicious breakfast in hand.

 

#2. Wardrobe Planning

Ok, so you already know I’m kind of crazy about this. I start by looking at the forecast for the week and planning my outfits accordingly. I have a capsule wardrobe so once I have a general idea of the weather for the week, it’s quick and easy to pull clothing to the front of my closet. If I’m really in a planning mood, I also pull out my jewelry and accessories to go with the outfits. This saves me time and energy on early weekday mornings and I’ve actually used the time saved by not worrying about clothes to have an awesome morning time with Jesus. Cannot recommend enough.

 

#3. Actual Life Planning

There are a couple different places in my life that I keep everything planned and organized. I have a calendar in my kitchen, google calendar on my phone, and of course my wonderful and necessary Erin Condren Life Planner. You definitely don’t have to be a calendar/planner nerd like me, but I totally recommend sitting down and going over your week before it starts. It’s really helpful to remember appointments you might have forgotten or tasks you still need to accomplish before the craziness of Monday morning hits. This has been super beneficial for Jake and I in our marriage because we do as much individually as we do together. Knowing each other’s schedules and making sure we haven’t double booked each other or not prioritized time together makes busy weeks so much better.

 

And that’s my Sunday night! In an ideal world, I’d also straighten the house and clean out my purse but, to be honest, ain’t nobody got time for those. But really, once I have these three things taken care of, I can tackle anything the week throws at me.

What about you? Are there things you HAVE to do before Monday if you’re going to walk into the week with energy and confidence? How do you make your weekday time more productive? I’d love to chat in the comments!

How to Adult: Looking Like an Adult (Even When You Don’t Feel Like One)

Most days, I feel like a hot mess trying to adult. But that doesn’t mean I have to look like one…

How to Adult: Looking Like an Adult (Even When You Don't Feel Like One)Most of my life I’ve looked older than my age. This was cool in high school when everyone wants to look older but is considerably less cool now. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been carded getting drinks and most of the high school girls I hang out with at church are confused about my age because I don’t act a whole lot like the married adult I am sometimes.

I used to think that changing the way I dress would help me to look and feel my own age and it did, just not in the ways I wanted it to. In college, I took my new found freedom of dress (before college I wore uniforms every day for school) and wore all the things I wished I could have worn in high school. While this did make me look more my age, I also found that I wasn’t taken seriously as much as I would have liked.

The way we present ourselves sends a message to the world about who we are and what we want. I’m not saying it’s time to go out and replace everything in your closet with a power suit (although if that’s what you want to do, more power to you…get it? power…ba dum tssss). But I think cleaning up our look with very little effort can go a long way. Even when we don’t feel like adults who know what we’re talking about, we can still command respect with amazingly small changes to our appearance. Here’s what I’m talking about:

  • Wear clothes that FIT. This is a tough one for me since my weight has been fluctuating a lot in the last year or so. I realize that weight presents a challenge to this goal but I promise, wearing the right sizes makes such a huge impact because clothing that is too small or too large tends to look childish. Pick your clothes not by the size number (because we all know those are bogus and there is no standard) but by how they fit your body. This goes for jeans, too. If you find jeans that you love but are a few inches too long, it’s well worth the extra few bucks to get them hemmed to the proper length.

 

  • Clean your glasses. I’ve worn glasses for the last 20 years of my life so I rarely notice when they’re smudgy and need a cleaning just because I’m so used to it. What I don’t typically think about is that even though I can see through smudges perfectly fine, other people can’t. Keep your glasses clean so that people can easily make eye contact with you without thinking about how nasty your life must be if your glasses are that gross.

 

  • Keep your shoes clean, too. This is another one that’s hard for me because I kind of love my nasty, beat-up Converse. But they don’t look great. We don’t think about it often, but shoes probably take the greatest wear and tear out of all the items we wear regularly. Learn the proper way to take care of your shoes and you’ll look a lot more like you know things about life than like a grungy, angst-filled teenager (even if that teenager is your spirit animal).

 

  • Speaking of wear and tear, retire items of clothing that have seen better days. Or at least don’t wear them in public. Items with pilling, fraying, holes, and tears are no good in your efforts to trick the world into believing your adulthood. Even if they’re some of your favorite pieces, it’s time to let go and find new pieces that you’ll love just as much.

 

  • Roll your sleeves better. I know personally when I roll my sleeves, it’s usually because I’m hot and bothered about something (or because I live in Texas and it’s just always hot). But there are ways of rolling shirt sleeves that don’t make you look like the hot mess you may feel like when you go to roll ‘em up. It’s all about giving off a clean exterior, people!

 

  • Take off your old makeup. Yeah, I know, you got in late last night and went straight to bed and your makeup this morning actually doesn’t look half bad. Wrong. Your skin does not appreciate when you go to bed without washing your face and overtime it will show. So, not only does day two makeup not usually look super professional, it will incur the wrath of your skin. Keep makeup remover wipes by your bed if that helps and learn about why your face does not appreciate going to bed dirty.

 

  • Keep hair ties away from your wrist. Oof, this one is hard! I’m so guilty of constantly keeping a black hair tie on my right wrist, I had a tan line there this summer. I’ve heard it’s not awesome-looking to permanently wear hair ties like bracelets but I’m so accustomed to it, I don’t think to look anywhere BUT my wrist these days. However, hair ties have recently been linked to health issues like infections and issues with blood circulation. While you probably have no reason to worry, remember to keep your hair ties clean, wash your hands regularly, and try your best to decrease the amount of time that hair ties stay around your wrist. Also, stretch out new hair ties before keeping them on your wrist so that blood flow is never cut off.

 

  • Ladies, put your bra straps away. I have always felt like this particular strategy for looking more respectable was a no-brainer but recently, it’s kind of come back in style to expose parts of your bra, particularly if it’s pretty and lacy. Keeping your undergarments under your clothes as they were designed to be looks more like you’re asking to be taken seriously than the alternative. And for that matter, wearing bras that fit well can change your look dramatically, not to mention raise your confidence level. So let your pretty bras be a confidence-boosting secret rather than showing them off to the world and notice the difference in how people react.

 

  • Do away with chipping nail polish. Clean nails go a long way in presenting yourself well. Chipped nail polish gives off a young, immature vibe so either take the time to keep your nail polish looking salon fresh or make sure to remove it when it starts looking less than. Next time you go in for that handshake with clean nails you can feel a lot more like the adult you are rather than the kid you feel like.

How we present ourselves says a lot more about who we want to be than we realize most days. You don’t have to completely change your personal style to be taken seriously, though. These small little changes can go so far in showing the world who we are and what we want. What do you think? Have you tried any of these on your own? What was the response you noticed? I’d love to hear your stories about this!

Will My Wardrobe Ever Be Capsule-Sized?

I love, love, love capsule wardrobes…So why is this so difficult?

Adobe Spark (9)As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I’m one of those people who doesn’t like wasting money on clothes I won’t wear. Don’t get me wrong, I love shopping and Jake will let you know that most of my spending money and our combined clothing budget gets spent if I enter the mall (or Target or Stitch Fix) without proper supervision.

But one trend I’ve really gotten on board with recently is the idea of a capsule wardrobe.

For those for whom this term is new (have you been living with the mole people?), a capsule wardrobe is a small collection of clothing items that don’t go out of fashion and can be augmented with seasonal pieces throughout the year.

Basically, the idea is that you always only wear clothes that you love. The items you wear should be higher in quality, fewer in number, and able to be worn with any other piece you own. Ideally, these pieces would be basic fashion staples that stand the test of time.

Capsule wardrobes have basically taken over my Pinterest as I’ve taken the minimalist plunge. I followed the advice of other like-minded closet purgers and donated over half of my wardrobe in March and have since begun the process of narrowing down the number of pieces I own.

However, the process of refining your wardrobe to a limited number of basic fashion staples is not what it may seem. Currently, the clothes in my closet are only the best of the best. They’re all items that are comfortable and that I wear often. Most of them are nicer quality but also there’s a lot of V-neck tops from Target because that’s usually my go-to shirt.

And this is where I’m conflicted. I’m perfectly happy in my clothes from Target. But I love the idea of buying nicer things that will last longer. Do I want a smaller wardrobe because that’s what Pinterest is telling me to do? Or am I ok with having 10 of one item in various colors because that’s kind of my thing?

I’ve been at this for 6 months and am currently feeling stuck and directionless. Anyone else make a brave attempt at a capsule wardrobe? If so, did you feel as conflicted as I am? Anyone have advice for me?